Trust in others, wins Co-operation from them . To have faith in others also means reinforcing their faith in themselves . This naturally increases their confidence and enthusiasm . They respond better to positive feelings and reach their full potential.
Introspection is the attitude of going inside when necessary . It’s applicable before a task or a busy day.
The result of going inside is peace & calmness ,giving clarity to make the right decisions. It doesn’t mean avoiding the world but going inside and being able to act along with others.
Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called ‘The Top Five Regrets of the Dying’.
Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”
Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work .”
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”
5. I wish I had let myself be happier.
“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to themselves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have stilliness in their life again.”
A task left undone remains so in 2 places :at the actual location of the task and inside your head .
Incomplete tasks in our head consume the energy of our attention as they eat at our conscience .
They siphon off alittle more of our will power every time we delay. No need to be a perfectionist , but it’s good to be a completionist.
If we start it let’s finish it …or forget it .
No matter what is going on in your life today, remember, it is only preparation. People come and go; situations rise and fall; it’s all preparation for better things. You must stretch, reach, grow into your goodness. Without the preparation we receive through adversity, disappointment, confusion, or pain, we could not appreciate the goodness when it arrives.,
A compassionate person develops an eye for noting the qualities that make each one special.
Even when others are at a low ebb,it’s possible to restore their self belief by keeping a firm, clear vision of their goodness & talents . Taking a gentle encouraging path,never give up on anyone
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them , it creates sorrow . Let reality be reality & let things flow ahead naturally in the way they like …,